Relationships, there are so many different situations, so many possibilities. Before there can be a relationship the two parties have to concede. That’s right, a one sided relationship is not a relationship at all, it’s a speculation. Imagine if you could read what your mate is thinking and quietly come to a compromising agreement before any conflict arose. What would you discover when you looked into his/her mind, maybe you wouldn’t want to know. Women want men to think like them and men, well men want to be mothered. Listen ladies, haven’t you ever heard a man say, “my wife just doesn’t understand me?” Do any of the following scenarios sound familiar? A. You think everything is going along fine, and all at once he/she says, “I feel smothered, I need more space.” What do you say? Is there any hope for reconciliation? Maybe you were “lost in love,” and you were just living a “love fantasy”. You keep asking “what happened? What did I do wrong?” Your relationship has just come to a abrupt end and you need to know where to go from here. B. You have found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with but he/she is reluctant. How do you go about capturing his/her heart? What would be different if you knew the “secrets of love” and knew how to capture his/her heart? C. You have been struggling with your relationships and have become tired of looking. You just want to know how to find your soul mate. D. You thought you married the love of your life but your relationship has never grown to anything but mediocre. You’re feeling dejected, sad and lonely. You really want to reignite the flame you felt when you first married. You want to have your mate understand how much you care for him/her and recapture the “excitement of love”. E. You’re single and date occasionally. For some reason the men/women you seem to attract are of questionable character. Your choice of relationships always ends up with a person who is vague and has a fear of commitment. You ask yourself, “am I to pushy?” Is There Anywhere You Can Go For Advice That Actually Works? Because all relationship advice is third party, it tends to be iffy at best and not suitable in your situation. In fact, most relationship advice is biased and slanted toward the gender giving it. A female advisor may say, “men are too focused on short-term results which renders men incapable of falling and staying in love with one woman.” While a man might say, “men seek long-term family relationships and are capable of guiding the family as a unit.” What a bunch of hogwash. Men seek two things, First, a good helpmate and second, a good procreator and quite frankly, he wants to trade his mother for a wife. That’s it. A man is more apt to fall in lust first and love second. His physical desire may overshadow his feeling for completeness at first but subsides as he becomes united with his mate. And a woman, well she is looking for security and a mate who will appreciate her and why not, after all she will not only be acquiring a mate but also a little boy she will have to contend with for the rest of her life. Men never grow up, they will forever be boys. Truelove is an acquired state of mind not something that can be plucked from the air. Just because two people desire each other does not mean they are in love. Don’t worry how the other gentler thinks, think about how you and your choice fit together. Do you mesh like gears in a well greased machine? You have to fit, in mind and soul, then, given time, you will become as one. Like every challenge there is a learning curve. A time of getting to know each other and finding out how each other react to certain touches, words, actions. One day you will wake up and realize that love has crept into your heart and that person you hardly knew, is now the center of your life. There are no bad marriages only people who didn’t think it through before marriage or are self centered and don’t want to merge with their partner. Would you want to go through learning how the other gender thinks just so you can do what ever you have to so he/she will want to date, marry, and never want to leave you? You have to be you, no matter what. You have likes and dislikes, faults, strengths you are an individual and when you were made they broke the mold. You have to blend with your mate not change to catch him/her. Learning the secretes of a person’s heart just so you’ll be able to give the person of your choice what he/she really wants does not mean he/she will cherish you forever. Asking someone to share your life is the biggest step you will ever make. Don’t start with a deception, be honest, and be prepared to stay the course. Stop guessing what to do and allow nature to take its course. There are no secrets or magic incantations that will make your relationship work. Relationships and success comes from inside of the person who has placed a high enough value on it to succeed. Happy Trails “Donald Yates, former Development coordinator for Imperial Research, Author, and Spiritual Adviser. Continues to engage life through self discovery. Learn how you can also. Go to.” ”Affiliate Marketing” => [Click Here] SAY “NO” TO HIGH GAS PRICES!