There is a technique designed to help a man learn to control ejaculation by squeezing the base of the penis. To control the ejaculation during fellatio hold the penis with the forefinger wrapped over the top of the shaft near the base of the penis. Have your partner signal you when he is feels that he is about to orgasm and then use your thumb to compress the urethra at the base of the cock where it meets his sack, (beneath the cock where the penis joins the inner part of the body). The urethra can be compressed against the erect corpus cavernosum. This is a modification of the Masters & Johnson "Squeeze Technique," which in itself is a modification of an earlier technique developed in the late 1950's by an unknown source. The idea is not to physically prevent the ejaculation but to create a sensory feedback that makes the man physically aware of this part of his body. In this way he is more able to control the act of ejaculation. A portion of the erection will be lost, but can quite easily be obtained again. The squeezing should be firm but not hard (unlike the Masters & Johnson technique which advocates squeezing the glans penis with lots of pressure), but should be rhythmic (about two firm squeezes per second). Benefits of this technique are: the penis does not have to be removed from the mouth, and the fingers wrapped over the shaft allow easy, comfortable control of the penis. Use this for the man that suffers from premature ejaculation. Be sure and offer plenty of support and encouragement, and don't give up, the payoff is well worth it. It may take a little time and it will definitely take some effort. It is your decision as to whether your man is worth it or not. If he is not, you need to get the hell out ASAP. Release him so that he might find a real woman, one that cares for him. Go find the man you think you want. Some women are incredibly lazy lovers. They think that they can just rub the penis against their lips and their lover should explode out of sheer gratitude! Forget it! You get down there and you suck that mans cock, it's called the basic vacuum suck. You form a seal with your lips and you suck on it in varying degrees until he explodes hard! You don't have to do it until your ears leak for crying out loud, but do suck, suck it like you just can't get enough of it. I heard a comedianne in her routine bitching about how her man can come in just a few minutes when having "regular (whatever the heck that means)" sex, but that it takes him forever to come when she is giving him oral sex. I'ts a simple equation, if it takes him a long time, TRY SOMETHING ELSE, YOU AREN'T DOING IT RIGHT. Secrets of Ultimate Oral, Anal, Hardcore Sex and Sex Positions John is the author of two books, Astounding Secrets and Ultimate Sex Secrets, both available on line. He has been publishing and selling information online and on the Internet since 1995. John is currently at work on 2 more books for publication and also operates a blog designed to provide health and life improvement information at Body Secrets You may use the above article in your ezine or on your website or blog as long as you leave the contact information intact.