Men and women tend to approach sex differently. This isn't to say that women don't enjoy or want sex just as much as men, but they don't tend to go about it the same way. Women tend to prefer more foreplay and seduction.

Couples that are completely open and honest with each other can experience an amazing sex life playing together. This is because they listen to each other, and they discover each other's fantasies and desires.

They also know that having a great sex life is about more than experiencing amazing orgasms in various positions. It's about trying and experiencing new things together - truly playing together.

The problem comes in when one partner ups the ante and wants to try something more exotic than their lover is comfortable with.

This can be the woman maybe wanting to tie her lover up, the man wanting to try anal sex with his girlfriend, or hundreds of other exotic sexual permutations.

And since anal sex is such a popular fantasy for so many men, let's talk about how this desire impacts all the women who are dealing with those men.

Of course, pushing boundaries is often just half the fun for sexual play, so it's important to peel back those fears and figure out where they started.

So what's a girl to do when her boyfriend REALLY wants to try anal sex, especially when he tries SO hard to please her?

Here's a question from a lady in Florida facing this sexual dilemma with her boyfriend...

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I have recently started dating this very great guy. I introduced him to the family, and he got their approval. Usually this does not happen, so I got the green light from my family, and friends, and even random neighbors! Everyone says "you look great together!" Plus I feel very happy around him. He calls me all the time, pays me respect and attention and even has declared that he wants to marry me if I permit it.

Okay, so the problem is this. When we have sex, he is very focused and he puts all of his energy and stamina into it... which lasts a little too long for my taste! Also he is very experimental and wants to satisfy my every request! This is great right?

Well, now he pushed up the stakes and wants to try Anal sex! I don't want to try it because I read that it is dangerous or bad, and I don't want to break this taboo. However I have been extremely experimental in the past, but I never tried this. Am I being too prudish or what? How should I maintain a great sex life and relationship with him, but not make him feel rejected or limited in the bedroom?

-- Cynthia, Florida

Watch this short video for our thoughts on this very interesting question... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rrEnHTxyDQQ

Why Your Friends and Family Have No Business In Your Sex Life

In addition to taboos in our society, fear of what your friends and family might say is a big deterrent keeping some people from truly broadening out and enjoying a more varied and exotic sex life.

But really, this shouldn't be an issue. Sex is something private between the two of you - you're not going to be discussing your latest sexual adventures at you next family dinner - at least if you're smart. Actually, be sure you don't. Some people actually talk to their families about their sex lives, and this often results in arguments and fighting. Yes, we've very big on open and honest communication, but truly your family has no business knowing or discussing what specifically you do to each other in the bedroom. Nor does anyone else...

Even if at first you're not comfortable talking openly with your partner about sex (and you'd rather talk with your buddies), this communication is crucial to a happy and fulfilling sex life. So figure out a way to actually talk to each other! Why Our Culture Has So Many Sexual Taboos...

At the core of it, most of the sexual taboos in our culture originate from hundreds (thousands) of years where one church or another was the law of the land.

Even today there are plenty of people who'll try to convince you that you can't do this, shouldn't do that, and should never do the other since it's downright evil and immoral. But at the end of the day, what grown adults do in the privacy of their own bedroom is nobody else's business.

Unless you happen to subscribe to whatever particular religious belief doesn't tolerate your sexual practices, what they think isn't really your concern.

Unfortunately, growing up in this environment of taboos, where people are afraid to even talk about the more involved areas of sexuality, results in mass ignorance. People grow up knowing little about sex, and less about safe sex, and even less about the right way to talk about sex.

As popular a fantasy as anal sex is in today's society, it's still hard to find someone that will talk about it. People tend to be shocked that you even brought it up. So we definitely have a way to go and evolve as a society, until we can speak openly to one another about topics that today tend to stay behind closed doors. Should You Try Anal Sex Just to Keep Him From Feeling Rejected?

Well, that's a tough question. If your man pays you amazing attention and bends over backwards to make sure you're always "satisfied", then it certainly wouldn't hurt to try and reciprocate by at least trying to fulfill his fantasy.

Maybe more importantly though, consider if down deep you may actually want to try it, but haven't because you were afraid of social stigmas or what others would say.

So, if you want to keep him from feeling rejected, maybe consider trying it.

As an alternative, you could maybe try a limited approach to this, like maybe just a finger, and see how that goes. Having said that, everyone has their limits. If it's terrible, stop and don't do it again. It's that simple.

The only reason to do anything in life is because you want to - not out of obligation to anyone. Safety and Anal Sex - Why Taking It Slow Is SO Important

If done right and taken slowly, anal sex can be safe, and many women actually like it - once they get over the taboo anyway...

But it's important to realize that mother nature didn't intend this to be an 'in' hole, so the body does not self lubricate this area. Which means you need to bring your own lubricant, and plenty of it. If you're not careful, someone could really get hurt.

That area of the body is very sensitive, and it's very easy to cause injury if you're not really careful. Aside from not wanting to hurt your partner, do you really want to explain to your family why you guys were at the hospital the other day? So play it safe, and use lots of lubricant.

And most importantly, take it very slow!

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