Let's say you go out to a party with some friends and draw attention of an attractive woman or man whom you are interested in. Sparks fly, as you exchange looks, talk animatedly, and even exchange numbers. After some pegs and laughs, you decide it is time to head home with the person.

In front of the crowd, it was okay. But now you two are alone. A wave of anxiety lurks in your mind as you are alone with her/him at home or at another place. Both of you know at the back of the mind, that you may end up making out. The point here is how you would communicate this part across to your object of attraction without sounding cheap, desperate or explicit. Read on to know how you can be suggestive without being lewd:

Here are some sexy pointers to know the person before making the move!

Find out about how 'open' he or she is: In the time that you spend with the person, you should gauge enough to know about how open or broad-minded he or she is to such things. If the object of your attraction is openly giving vibes, your responsive mind will be able to pick up the subtle signals. However, if you find that the object of your attraction is a bit withdrawn, mindful or reticent about certain things, make sure that you do not rush or cross the line.

You may have to add a lot of charisma in your conversation to get the desired effect. You can let her or him know that they are irresistible and attractive because of their ?(spot one quality and name it). Also seemingly shy people need to open up and any sexual talk or double meanings at this juncture will spoil it. Make sure you only talk about a personality trait that is sexy rather than comment on any physical attribute that sounds suggestive.

Humor: Humor has been one of the hottest qualities in many flirts and will be for the next 500 years. It is the best way to break the ice. Again there are different types of humor which you can use according to the temperament of the person. Try telling a joke about a guy who slipped on a banana peel. There are chances a girl break into peals of giggles. Another girl might just find this kind of humor pathetic and disgusting. It is always better to use general humor which does not offend any sentiments. And one more thing, cheesy pick up lines are just that..cheesy!

Be a tease: You need to loosen up and be playful. That does not mean, you go on tugging at his shirt or tugging at her hair clip. Tease her or him in a seductive manner so that he or she gets aroused and humored at the same time. Let the other person know that you are interested in him or her and are really enjoying their company.

Dance: Dancing is flirting in action. For those who can dance, this is a piece of cake. For those who cannot, it still works. Have feet, will dance! You do not really have to gyrate or break into a jive. If you can, then it is always a plus point. For those who cannot, you can still just hold the person close and move with her or him matching the steps. If you really do not know the moves, the person will guide you, if he or she is interested in you. Know that dancing can lead to a range of sizzling delights later. So make sure, you do not pass this one!

Eat to know better: There is something sensuous about a way person eats her or his food. It can subtly give you an idea about the person he or she is in bed. If he or she talks a lot while eating food, there is a chance that he or she likes to be talkative in bed too. If he or she is practiced and measured while eating, there are chances that they can be the same way in other areas of life, which include love making skills too. If they are clumsy and rushed while eating (assuming there is no urgent appointment), there is a chance that they will be the same in bed too. After all it all boils down to a person's characteristics and traits. Hunger and sex are after all, basic instincts in a person, which compliment each other.

Relaxed touches: Do not ever ogle at a person's body (especially a lady's) like a sex maniac. You will ruin it. Do not grope or fondle a person in the hope of turning him or her on. It does not work and you end up getting a slap or having the person leaving you stranded. If you want to touch her, keep it casual. Do not make it seem as if it is a big deal. You need to keep it sexy enough but without any showing any element of explicitness. For example, a soft caress on the cheek(of the face that is), gentle holding of hands, caressing the palm or gentle tugging of the ear as you talk can be amusing and flirtatious without looking lewd. As for the grand course, you will know it as she or he picks up on your cues and gets into the groove with you.

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