Couples that are happy can talk about almost everything because they understand each other's feelings. They understand that good communication is founded on who they are and not who they are trying to be

Couples came from different backgrounds and have different philosophies about life, yet each have chosen to accept the other in spite of quirky behaviours

Allow your partner the liberty to be who he or she is, relaxed and at peace; it doesn't necessarily have to be a carte blanche approval of anything he or she does

Let your partner know that he or she can never be condemned by you for who he or she is. Your partner should know that you have genuine feelings for him or her. Genuineness is not expressed in words only but in your attitude which includes your tone, non-verbal behavior and your eyes

If a husband finds out that his wife has fabricated feelings for him, he will never trust her again and vice versa. You have to be authentic and transparent- authenticity is something you are, not what you do

See things from your partner's perspective; that means that you have to learn how to remove your shoes by stepping into his or her shoes

Do not assume that your partner knows how you are feeling; the truth is that he or she may not. You have to bring both your heart and mind in to fully understand your partner

If you can accurately understand your partner's hurt, you will never hurt him or her again.     The foundation of communication is established in who you are as a person

You have to learn how to listen because communication is what your partner understands by what you say. If he or she is frequently requesting for a change in behavior, consider seriously and act on it if it seems reasonable

Understand that there is a difference in the way men and women communicate. Men use words to pave their way by communicating their knowledge and skill to impart knowledge while women use conversation to connect with other people

In marriage, women share feelings while men solve puzzles. Knowing how and when to apologize can make a great difference. This shows that you have taken responsibility for your own behaviour

Physical contact is another means of communication. Imagine that you came home from a tough day, feeling tired but then your spouse wraps you up in his or her hands and gives you a loving squeeze; that gentle hug will cause your muscles to relax and make you feel better

All these are the ways you can have a successful communication in your marriage

About the Author:
Sandra Jedidiah is a great writer and a motivational expert