There is many things I,avoid because my life experiences guide me in other directions. To name a few, people who smoke, drink excessively, unchecked drug intake, and the ones that refuse to take 100% response-ability for their current life tribulations. I, myself like many others have been down some nasty roads that have left me abandoned, with no hope of a "normal" life. Am I,healed,I doubt it, but I, do not bath in self pity. I, believe that kind of behavior zaps our internal well being. I, would never admit to having all the correct answers to everyone else's maladies. In order to understand myself I, look at a given situation perhaps with a no nonsense approach. Once I, have collected my garbage I take it out to the bin, and toss it in. I, do not climb in the bin with the trash, and continue to play with it. White & Black, is there a gray area, and if there is, what purpose does it serve ? An example of what I, mean is if a musician is playing a solo piece and he, or she is off key it doesn't sound right. So no matter what excuse is claimed for the incorrect note, it sounds wrong. So does the musician blame the audience, no, he or she is in command of the instrument. It's the musician's fault, and they must take the response-ability in order to make the correction. For many years I, thought that I, could help others see what I, see with a different perspective in order to help them believe that their is hope, and they can move on. With many encounters in my life I, have learned this: If the other person will not accept response-ability for their present condition, they are refusing to heal themselves. Which puts them in a manipulative state of mind, and unchecked they tend blame others constantly. Anyways I, thank you for being the coach, and providing a platform for sounding off. Do You have some trash you want to get rid of ? Want some one to listen, who has no agenda to judge you. Who on a regular bases share his own life crossroads, and many others do the same. Venting in such a environment allows you to grow, and understand we are all a lot alike in many ways. Helps you regain focus, and brings balance back into your life. Go ahead, and meet me on the call it is 100% free of charge. But, bring courage this encounter will build your inner strength. You can find me at, http://mlmreality.mentoringforfree.com