Media professional Carolina Fernandez (name changed) was utterly devastated when her boyfriend dumped her for another girl. For Carolina the break-up came as a dead end and left her with dejection and feelings of revenge. 'What went wrong?', 'Why did he do this to me?' and many more questions haunt her every now and then.

There are many people who can relate with Carolina's situation. People who begin to feel that their life has come to a standstill with their relationship break-up. Heartbreak drains them off all emotional and physical energy and they find it very tough to move on with life, leaving the past behind. Insurance agent, Peter Marshall (name changed) shares, "Three years ago my world came crashing down when I broke off a relationship. It was quite hard for me to accept that the girl with whom I was planning to spend the rest of my life did not want to be in the relationship anymore. It took me more than two years to get back on track."

EXPERTS' VIEWS

Grief and anger are natural emotions after a relationship breaks up. However, coming to terms with the fact that the relationship is over resolves the issue to some extend. Before one starts moving ahead in life it is essential to sort out the feelings in one's mind, which means accepting that the relationship is over. At the initial phase of breakup, writing down the upsetting thoughts often help in overcoming the trauma faster. Besides this, talking about your feeling with a non-judgmental person also helps during in getting over the emotional stress. And just in case a person is unable to cope up with his/her routine work and gets suicidal, then professional help should be taken.

After a break-up what you need to change is your attitude. Instead of brooding upon what went wrong or harbouring feelings of revenge, it is better to concentrate on your life ahead.

HOW TO SURVIVE A BREAK-UP

Vent out choked emotions:

It' is better to weep and release the emotions weighing heavily on you, as bottling them can delay the healing process.

Avoid loneliness:

Try to involve yourself in activities that you enjoy doing the most. Try to mingle with friends.

Start afresh:

Make new plans to have a fresh beginning and avoid dwelling on the past.

Give some time:

It took you long to build the relationship so don't expect your heartbreak to be over in a jiffy. For some it takes months while for others it can take years, if the situation is not smartly handled.

About the Author

Michael Douglas is a relationship expert and the webmaster of http://www.go-get-guys.com where you can learn how to manage a break-up and tips to ensure that you avoid a bitter break-up.